Recovery from narcissistic abuse

In the end times, there will be an increase in the number of lovers of self (narcissism).

Everyone has a narcissistic moment or season in life. When we become selfish, thinking it is the only way we can get our needs met and we don’t trust anyone else to be in charge; not even God. However, true Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is permanent. It is having been given over to a hardened heart like Pharaoh during the time of Moses. We all know some hard-hearted people, mean and deceptive to the core, who will never change. Scripture says there will be an increase in these personalities. They create problems and then blame others, playing the victim themselves. No matter how much you beg a narcissist to stop, they will push you past your limits until you snap. Then when you do, they’ll stand back, act shocked, play the victim, and claim you are the crazy one.

On judgment day, those who have treated God the same way you have been treated as a narcissistic person’s scapegoat will want to argue and blame God, just as they argued and blamed you. There will be weeping and grinding of their teeth because they don’t get their way, the same explosive attacks you have seen.

God is and has been willing to do whatever it takes to keep the creation together with Him. He doesn’t want to lose anyone. He showers more and more kindness, as though if I just try harder, they will love and accept me. As a victim of narcissistic abuse, that is why we stay. He understands. He also knows who is being selfish and mean narcissistic for a moment or a season, who can snap out of it and become a truly repentant ex-sinner, or who is like Pharaoh.

God, like you, will have to give up on some and walk away. Their sins have reached their full, and judgment has been given. As a narcissistic abuse victim, you need God’s guidance, strength, and a reality check to step out of gullibility and denial to know the difference in your situation. Is this a moment, a season of selfishness? Or is it a Pharaoh-chosen permanent personality? An incurable narcissistic personality grounded in lies, deception, manipulation, and evil power and control, adrenaline and fighting?

Like God, sometimes you’ve got to put aside the love you feel for them and pay attention to what their actions are saying they feel about you.

God lives in reality, and by faith, we need to face the reality that God does not lie. God is not the problem. The victim who loves the narcissistic person is not the problem.

The NPD has a permanent personality of playing mind games, manipulation, and control. He is addicted to the adrenaline rush, loves himself, and the power he has to blame others and destroy them. He loves instilling fear in the hearts of his victims. The only love in him is the lover of self. He is his own god. There is no room in heaven for other gods. To ensure the safety of heaven, God, like you, will need discernment on when and how to let go. Educate yourself with books, YouTube training videos from professionals on the topic, and God’s wisdom to understand.

If you are or have been a victim, God understands. God warned us that the number of narcissistic personalities will increase. Like a mosquito is attracted to warmth and light; selfish people will be attracted to the light of God’s love shining through you. They will try to suck the joy and happiness out of you, trying to steal, kill, and destroy the power that is in you that is greater than their darkness