Get ahead of social media before it hurts relationships

Tuesday, June 5, 2018

You can get in a lot of trouble on social media; just ask Roseanne Barr or hundreds of other public figures or private citizens who have lost their jobs or suffered other consequences of careless online statements.

Youíve probably seen private family disputes played out on Facebook, Instagram or Twitter, and if youíre like most of us, you donít want to see any more.

Thereís nothing more personal than a marriage, and thatís a prime place for an emotional tweet or post to have unintended consequences.

If the dispute deteriorates into divorce, lawyers get involved, and thatís almost never a good thing.

Even lawyers know an ounce of prevention is better than a pound of cure, and thatís why many of them are drafting prenuptial agreements that include a social media clause.

Itís one thing to accuse a spouse of being inconsiderate, itís another to post something about an ex whose image is a stock in trade ó doctors, business owners and, yes, lawyers.

It doesnít take much study of cause and effect to link such online negativity to economic loss, and thatís when things can get really ugly.

Even if youíre not drawing up a prenuptial agreement, itís a good idea to have a serious discussion with a present or future spouse about things like what information or photos should be shared, especially about children, what privacy settings should be used, who actually has access to a joint social media account, and what topics are appropriate topics for a post.

This day and age, staying completely off the internet is unthinkable for many of us, as desirable as it might be.

But itís always a good idea to read everything youíve just keyed into a post, read it again and once more. If itís something you might possibly regret, hit delete. Youíll still have the satisfaction of putting your grievance into words, without harming yourself or others.

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  • When I think of someone saying something careless, I don't necessarily first think of someone comparing another person to an ape, but that's just me. Careless to me might be continuously using multiple exclamation marks in every single thing you type.

    -- Posted by hulapopper on Thu, Jun 7, 2018, at 10:24 AM
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