Opinion

It's all in your head

Saturday, October 13, 2007

Medical research has recently proven that "falling in love" is a process that can be measured in the brain.

The brains of people in love aren't the same as the brains of people who aren't. That's why it's so difficult to talk to other people about your own love connections. Unless they're in exactly the same relationship place that you're in, it's like two people trying to communicate and neither understands the language being used by the other.

 

Most of us have had that experience. I know I have. When some people are in love, they have a burning need to talk to other people about how they feel. The problem is that the other person simply doesn't understand and oftentimes doesn't care. They're either not in love, not at the same stage of love you're in, have never been in love, or were in love so long ago they've forgotten what it was like.

 

Another thing science has discovered about romantic love is that the intense emotional feelings one experiences can happen at any time and don't diminish with age. A person who's 80 will have the same intense feelings when they fall in love that someone who's 20 does. It's the feeling almost all of us are familiar with but most of us don't know how to process.

 

We've always known that being in love effects us emotionally and we've also known that it effects us physiologically as well. Some people lose their appetite when they're in love. Some people can't sleep or concentrate when they're in love. When we see or think or talk about that special person in our lives, our heart and respiration rates increase. And now it can be measured in our brain waves as well. That person literally invades our conscious and subconscious minds and takes up residence in our souls. We think about them every minute of every day and dream about them every night. They literally live inside our skin and it's the most unbelievable, metaphysical, life-affirming experience there is.

 

So the next time you're head-over-heels in love with someone and you simply can't get them out of your mind; when the thought of them pervades everything you think and do, and you feel almost compelled to tell others about the depth and breadth of your feelings for this person only to hear them tell you in return that it's all in your head.

 

Now you can tell them they're right.

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