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Helpful Words

Posted Sunday, September 26, 2010, at 12:01 PM

The other evening a friend called to share some news. After talking for a while, I apologized that I didn't have any great words of wisdom or could say anything to make her feel better. The words of comfort weren't coming at all.

When I got off the phone I had went and sat on the edge of my bed. I wasn't certain if I was angry or I just wanted to curl up under the blankets and bawl. I had no words to help. I wasn't the one dealing with everything that had gone on either but I felt utterly helpless.

I had gone along most of that day thinking "no news was good news". Boy did I have that wrong. As I sat there contemplating, being angry and so incredibly sad, it was mind and heart numbing. I was angry that so many challenges had been thrown at this friend and her family in the last year. I was sad also because no one should have to have that much dumped on their hearts in a lifetime let alone the last year. While I will not share the details, lets just say that even if I were to put all of it down, most people would have a difficult time taking it in.

I wanted so badly to help but how? I had contemplated for awhile and then this morning, I had one of those aha moments, when the inner voice says, you have the words, use them.

I need your help. If you read my blog and I know there are those that do, I am asking for the following.

Please post something positive that I can give to my friend. My initial thought was asking for folks to post their towns and I would put stickers on a map as a visual for my friend to see that there are good folks out there that will say a positive word or prayer. I want to believe there is a goodness in all of us. (Yes, that is my Pollyanna a moment.)

The more I thought about it and contemplated, maybe there is a book or a poem that would help. Perhaps there is prayer you say everyday that gives you courage. Here is your chance to help me help encourage my friend so she can continue to find the inner strength to face the challenges.

While the following should be a given, I feel I have to ask as politely as possible not to post any site or links which try to sell anything.

Thank you all so much for taking the time to log on to the have a positive posting! I will share these with my friend through her recovery period. I know there are helpful words and I know there are folks who will help me share those helpful words.

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A bruised reed he will not break, a smoldering wick he will not extinguish, in faithfulness he will bring forth justice. Isaiah 42:3

Betsy, there is One who not only walks beside us, carrying us if necessary, but also goes before us, aware and prepared for what comes next. I pray your friend will feel His presence in her pain and allow His compassion to flow over it, bringing her comfort.

-- Posted by newdawn on Sun, Sep 26, 2010, at 6:02 PM

Betsy, I love a good Pollyanna moment, and I'm a firm believer that engaging all your prayer warriors is a good first step to any problem. Praying for your friend and her family!

Psalm 119:50

My comfort in my suffering is this: Your promise preserves my life.

-- Posted by saveryhinze on Mon, Sep 27, 2010, at 8:28 AM

A lot of people won't comment for whatever reason, but be sure, they are praying for your friend Betsy... Me too.

-- Posted by Brian Hoag on Mon, Sep 27, 2010, at 12:56 PM

Thank you for your posts. Your kind words and thoughts will be appreciated!! Your prayers are very helpful!!

-- Posted by coolidge on Mon, Sep 27, 2010, at 6:11 PM

Perhaps your friend will find solace and strength here:


-- Posted by newdawn on Tue, Sep 28, 2010, at 3:47 PM

While finding the words is difficult, once spoken, they can also be difficult to hear - even though the intent is purely positive. Sometimes the most supporting, healing thing that can be passed on is the acknowledgement that just the "right words" are lost and our hearts and prayers are there at the ready to be called upon when it feels "ok" to ask.

Blessings on both you - pure-hearted sister - and your friend during her personal trials.

-- Posted by interested_in-law on Wed, Sep 29, 2010, at 5:41 PM

Oh BTW - Bayard Nebraska Make it a good sticker :)

-- Posted by interested_in-law on Wed, Sep 29, 2010, at 5:43 PM

Thanks - Bayard - definitely a Tiger Paw!!

-- Posted by coolidge on Wed, Sep 29, 2010, at 6:06 PM

A exceptional read would be "Love, Medicine & Miracles" by Bernie Siegel. I KNOW that God answers prayer, and that mine are with you and your friend!

From Cambridge, NE

-- Posted by fred2 on Sun, Oct 17, 2010, at 3:59 PM

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